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I was raised in a small town in Michigan. I was the middle child of 3 boys in a moderately dysfunctional family. I was fortunate to fall into the Hero role hat afforded me the very best that my family could provide. As a hero child, I was the first to go to college. College opened my eyes and my mind. College also turned out to be the bane of my family. To make along story short, at 38 years old and a new social worker, I learned of the dark secrets my family held. The more I reached out to help the family, the more the pushed me away until, I could not longer have contact with any family members. It's been nearly 30 years now. It's just better that way. As a result, I've focused my career on helping families, especially families with teenagers. I've always worked with teens, since I was 19 years-old I've worked with teens as a teacher, counselor, social worker and psychotherapist. I am still passionate about working with teens and their families, but am focused on working with large groups with multiple families in attendance. Part of my desire to accomplish on this website is to create a place for discussion of families, adolescents, their ever present angst. I want to share with parents of teens some of what the wisdom I've gained from 30 years of working with teenagers and their families. Please visit for awhile. Read some articles, make some comments or share a post with your friends or colleagues. I'm at your service.

Ray’s Book – Ten Tips to Tame Your Teen: Strategies That Work!

Ray’s book, Ten Tips to Tame Your Teen: Strategies That Work! is a thoughtful look at the world of adolescents and how to work with them. Ten Tips to Tame Your Teen is written for you and your family. Yeah, maybe your teen doesn’t need to be tamed and maybe they are a pretty good kid most of the time. …

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School Problems

The Carnegie Council on Adolescent Development estimates that about one quarter of the adolescent population is at risk of academic failure and other problem behaviors. Another quarter is considered “moderately” at risk (Carnegie Council on Adolescent Development, 1989). The most serious of the problems associated with school failure is the almost inevitable unemployment or underemployment that follows. At some point …

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Growing up in a small town in Michigan

I was the middle child of 3 boys growing up in a moderately dysfunctional family. Fortunately I fell into the Hero role. Being the family Hero afforded me the best my family could give me. As a Hero child, I was the first to go to college. College opened my eyes and my mind. College also turned out to be the …

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